His Biggest Advocate

There is a lot to be said for the relationship between siblings, even more so the relationship between multiples. Thomas' twin sister is his biggest advocate. I don't think we always give her enough credit for the amount that she understands. I've worried about how this is affecting her, I think it will be most detrimental to her. Even though she is the "youngest" I think she may always feel the need to be the protector or the guardian in some way. When we can't understand what Thomas is saying you can fully rely on her to tell you. If he's upset, you can ask her why. If he hurts her in some way, you can give her a moment and then she will simply say "it's ok..." He has often locked her in her room because he's mad at her or thrown all of her stuffed animals on the floor. She may try to help him in some way but he doesn't want the help and this frustrates him. However, she remains steadfast his biggest advocate. She continues to stand by his side, she continues to help him, she continues to understand what he says and feels and she keeps saying "it's ok..." I think a lot about the future and what his future will be like. I also think about my other two children and their futures, but not in the same aspect. We really want Sissy to have her own personality and to be able to learn to play and grow in her own personality. However when thinking of Thomas and his sister I often have to wonder how all of this will impact her life as she gets older. I can only hope that when they are both my age she is still sitting with him somewhere eating lunch telling him "it's ok..."